Sunday, 13 April 2014

Live Everyday Like it's Your Last!


Hello everyone,

The last few months have been bitter cold and even though Spring is finally here, I am still not able to fight any illness around me! Yes, I practise regular hand washing, but to no avail! Hopefully, the sunnier and warmer weather will combat these lurking germs and I can get  back to writing this blog on a weekly basis!
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Life brings ups and downs, cherished moments with the ones you hold closest to your heart, heartache and disappointment with the ones you hold closet to your heart...

Live life to the fullest! How many times have you heard this expression? Live everyday like it's your last! How many of us do this daily? I know I don't.

We only start living once we've been through a life altering experience...an untimely death of a loved one, a health scare, or like in my case,when the child becomes the adult and teaches the mom a life lesson!

He sent me this while I was writing this post and I was left speechless...

Confirmation once again that all the preaching and teaching I've been doing is paying off and that I'm not the horrible parent I thought I was.

I think I will start living everyday like it's my last because one day it will be and I won't even know it!

I tell my kids to never go to bed upset with someone because you don't want those words to be the last ones you say to someone you love or care about!

Let go of the toxic people in your life and hold on to the people who bring out the best in you...

Keep calm and everything will be fine...

Words to live by everyday...

Especially during your darkest moments...

Eventually things work out for the best!

God Bless and Happy Easter


Wednesday, 19 March 2014

Happy Saint Joseph's Day!

Hello Everyone,

Today is a special day: Saint Joseph's Day! This post is dedicated to my wonderful son, Joseph!

I've been busy looking for the perfect recipe for zeppole! Zeppole are a yummy pastry made traditionally on Saint Joseph's Day by Italians! For those of you who are not familiar with the story behind this wonderful holiday, here is the short version..."Some say that the tradition of St. Joseph’s Day began in Sicily, during the Middle Ages. There was a severe drought. The people prayed for St. Joseph, their patron saint, to intervene. They promised him that, if he answered their prayers and brought rain, they would prepare a big feast in his honor. Their prayers were answered and the rains came! The people of Sicily prepared a feast for their patron Saint and zepolle were the desert made on this day!"

Thank you once again Pinterest for a great recipe! I used both sites to make my version of zeppole to suit my Joseph's needs! (tastebook.com and createeathappy.blogspot.com)


Thank you, Michael for measuring and cutting 3' squares of parchment paper for me! I know, I will dedicate a post for you on St. Michael's Day, though I am not sure there is a traditional desert made on that day! You can pick from the many delicious deserts we have already made together!






Joseph is named after his wonderful grandfather, Giuseppe! Everyday that passes I discover something new I love about him! His kind and generous heart, his ability to create interesting dragons out of clay, his infectious laugh, and most of all , his old soul! I see bits of his great grandparents and grandparents in him, and maybe a little bit of me too!


The first batch of zeppole didn't turn out as I hoped, so I made a second batch and they were perfect! I like both recipes, though I prefer the traditional zeppole with custard or whip cream! Joseph enjoyed his chocolate zeppole and already requested zeppole for next year!

Baking for the ones I love puts a smile on their faces and leaves them begging me for more! This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!

Baking is an art, a creation from the heart, that is shared and enjoyed by family and friends!

Baking is my new found love...

What is yours?

God Bless,

Sandra



Sunday, 2 March 2014

When a Door is Closed, a Window is Opened!

Hello everyone!

So sad the Olympics are done! It's amazing how a world can stop whatever they are doing and share a dream through an athlete's eyes. These athletes deserve to be at the Olympics because they have dedicated their lives to strive for excellence, to be the best in the world! I am so proud of all these athletes for giving their all, for inspiring our children to be future Olympians! Thank you!

Ever wonder why things happen in life? Why people suddenly come into our lives and unexpectedly leave without any warning? We don't realize until later that there was some lesson to be learned, and sometimes the lesson is hard to swallow!

I believe that even when a door is closed in our lives or a chapter has come to an end, there is a plan for us, a path we are meant to follow: our destiny!

When things seem unclear in our lives, when we can't understand why things are happening, this is the time to stop and listen, to pay attention to the signs that are trying to point us towards our path. Sometimes of course, we ignore these signs, and resist our destiny. This is when a series of events happen in our lives and keep happening until we are back on the path we are all meant to follow!

I feel that I am on the trail which will eventually bring me on my path. I am learning new lessons along the way, discovering a side of me that I never realized existed, and becoming the "best possible person I can be", even though I thought I was already that person...

The path ahead awaits...

Trust in God, trust in yourself...

You will know when you get there!

God Bless,

Sandra








Monday, 17 February 2014

Mom Sets the Tone!

Happy Family Day! (for us in Canada),

I hope everyone had the opportunity to spend some quality time with the people who mean so much to us: our family!

"Mom sets the tone", is a post I stumbled upon a couple of weeks ago when I was sick in bed, yet again! (http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2014/01/21/mom-sets-tone/).

A woman was talking to her sister who lives 3,000 miles away and venting her frustration about her family and how they were driving her crazy! This line left me pondering about how my mood affects everyone around me...She quietly said, I know how hard it is, but you have to remember that a mom sets the tone for her household.  The mood of your family will ultimately reflect your own.  If you are crabby, they will be too.

How true is this! I didn't believe this until one day when I was having one of those bad days when everything and everyone around me made me mad. My husband gently grabbed my shoulders and told me, "When you are in a crabby mood, the rest of us feel it and it brings the whole household down." It was a "light bulb" moment for me and I realized at that moment that my husband was right! 

It's me that sets the tone in my house! It's you that sets the tone in your house! Moms make the world go round, don't they? We are nurturers, that make everything better! We kiss those "booboos" all better and know exactly what to say and what not to say in any situation! We will do whatever we need to do to protect our family! Our maternal instinct is ready 24-7!

Ha, you know that's right!But, we have our other side. The side that sends everyone in our home running, taking shelter! The side that brings out those 'demons" we try so hard to keep hidden away deep within! Why does this happen? Because, we believe we are supernatural beings that can be the loving mother, devoted wife, the one that everyone counts on! We are very good at multi tasking and for awhile we are able to juggle a multitude of things and it feels great when we feel in control of our life...

Until we've overextended ourselves, once again, and begin spiraling downward until we crash and burn, bringing with us, everyone we hold closest to our heart: our family!

Breathe, take a break from the situation, and don't make it worse! Realize you are angry right now, but this will pass, as it always does, and understand that you are human! Play a game, clean something when your blood is boiling, or do what I do and "bake yourself happy."

Whatever it is you do to bring you back to that wonderful place in your mind, the place that humbles you and makes you realize that life is too short to spend it miserably...Get there as soon as you can, and try to stay in that wonderful place, as often as you can!

Set the tone in your home to be one of peace, tranquility, stability, and above all...Love!

Happy Family Day!

Sandra


Sunday, 26 January 2014

To Spank or Not to Spank, That Is the Question!


Hello, Everyone!

I've written my post for the over 30 weeks, until last week when I couldn't get out of bed. This flu season is really knocking me down! It's been three weeks now that I've gone from a viral to bacterial infection. I hope the antibiotics I'm on right now do the job!

Being sick gave me a chance to catch up on all my favorite cooking shows, as well as, some trashy reality shows. I was reading my daily Facebook page when I came across something that caught my eye! I started scrolling down to read comments from people and couldn't believe what I was reading! This was my comment," 
I  cannot believe all the nonsense I've read about spanking! First of all, spanking your kid in the butt should only be happening around their terrible 2 and 3's. If you've done your job properly as a parent, then there is no need to spank them after that! We need to teach our children about respecting adults! This is what's missing in our world! As a n educator, I find it difficult to teach children who have never been disciplined, who've never had anyone talk to them in a firm voice! OMG! What is wrong with parents these days! DO your job and teach your children values and respect so that one day they can be normal adults! PLEASE!

I think what the problem here is that many parents feel that raising their voice to their child when necessary will scar them for life! We have too much new information out there about disciplining children. Don't get me wrong, some advice is good, but most of it is utter nonsense! Children need to learn to respect others and to treat others the same way they want to be treated. They need to be held accountable for their actions and that there will be a consequence for their actions. We all know empty threats don't work and that the punishment needs to fit the crime. If you're going to give your child a consequence for their actions, then you need to follow through with the punishment, otherwise they will never respect you as a person. Remember, you are the parent, they are the child! This doesn't mean that you cannot have a relationship with your child. Find common interests and use this quality time to strengthen your relationship with your children.

To spank or not to spank, this is the question! One comment I read made me laugh so hard, I fell off the couch. This person said, "We start out spanking our child on the butt, then they grow up thinking  a spank on the butt is not enough, so they hit their child on the hand, and before you know it we are physically abusing our children! How extreme was this person! I believe most parents know the difference between a gentle spank to startle their child's bottom, from a "whopper" that would send their child flying across the room! I remember the only time I ever hit my children in the face. They were having their bath (2 years old) and I was extremely tired from work. I asked them to stop screaming and of course they ignored me! I slapped them both in the mouth at the same time and they started crying. Seconds later, I started crying with them, and they immediately stopped and looked at me with a puzzled look. They said, "Mommy, why are you crying?" I guess I didn't hurt them that much...It hurt me more! We are all human and have our share of bad days. As long as we recognize that "spanking" should only be used when children are very young and only on their bottom!

Let's stop blowing everything out of proportion and over analyzing everything! Think back when you were young...did your parents give you a spank here and there? Are you traumatized or did you learn to respect your parents and all adults? Exactly!

Why have we changed the old ways? I think our grandparents and their parents before them knew a thing or two about raising children...they had on average 7+ children...

Let's look in the past more and learn to use this knowledge to raise our children just like our parents raised us.

We didn't turn out that bad, did we?

Let them go through their terrible 2's, unpredictable teens, unexpected "light bulb" moments that will confirm what you already know...

You are a good parent!

In the meantime, laugh with your children, hug each other every chance you get, never go to bed mad and without saying, "I love you."

In a blink of an eye, they will no longer be children but adults, ready to make a difference in the world...

Have you done your job as a parent and given them the necessary tools for adulthood?

Only time can tell...

God Bless,

Sandra












Tuesday, 14 January 2014

Put the Golf Balls First In the Jar!

Hello Everyone,

Sorry about the late post, under the weather, yet again! It's been a shaky start to the new year, but I'm sure things are headed in the right direction.

I read an interesting story that was shared on my Facebook page which inspired this week's post. Here is the link www.tinylever.com/professor-beer-golf-balls-sand-facebook-story

Remember the golf balls because when all the sand and pebbles are gone, all you are left with are the golf balls!

Make a promise to yourself for this year and from now on that no matter how stressed your life gets with the small stuff, that you don't forget what's important in your life, your family, your friends, and your health!

Laugh every day www.facebook.com/JenniseMagicalAdventuresHow many times have we done this and how many times have we promised ourselves that we will remember who and what matters most and brush aside the trivial things in life? I know I have, many times, and something always happens at the right time in our lives to take stock of what really matters! Like a sudden death in the family, an unexpected illness or expected broken marriage!

When these things occur without our control, we stop and reflect...

Forget the stress of your job, leave it at work and deal with it tomorrow! No job is worth it!

Spend time with your children, laugh with them daily and always remind them how much they mean to you. Never go to bed upset with anyone who matters. You never know what tomorrow brings!

Bake cookies for your grandmother, your uncle, and spend some time listening to stories of the "good old days." I never get tired of those stories, but lately I haven't made time for the ones who mean the most to me! Call them on the phone and tell them you are thinking about them and miss them dearly!

Put the golf balls first and let the sand and pebbles wash away with the tide...

A true measure of happiness and self-worth is what we are all looking for...

Guess what? It's right in front of you...

Love passionately, laugh daily, live life to the fullest, and most of all...

Eat, drink, and be merry with those who you hold closest to your heart!

God Bless,

Sandra






Sunday, 5 January 2014

Che Sarà, Sarà, Whatever Will Be, Will Be!

Happy 2014 Everyone!

It's a new year, a new beginning, to make a fresh start, to do better than 2013! It's been a rocky 2013 for me, many twists and turns, good times and bad, unexpected but welcoming moments!

Che sarà, sarà, whatever will be, will be! Words to live by for all of us! What's the point of stressing over things in life that we have no control over? But we do, don't we? It's human nature for us to assume the worst when bad things happen in our lives. We become negative, we take things out on the ones we love the most, but this is our way of processing what's going on. Once we get our frustrations out and vent for hours and hours to the ones who are always there for us, no matter what, the real work begins...
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Learning to deal with unexpected news in our lives is hard to do. Just take a deep breath and keep telling yourself, "I am too blessed to be stressed and things will work out even in the darkest moments."

Make 2014 your year! Your year of being the best possible person you can be! Try not to sweat the small stuff, the stuff we cannot control, and soon enough, those unexpected events won't knock you down as hard anymore! And let's not forget about the support we get from family and friends when bad things occur. Don't they just drop everything for you and are by your side til' the end?

Count your blessings, let us be thankful, love and laugh every chance you get!

This is your life, this is your time to make a difference, to put a smile on a stranger's face, to perform random acts of kindness, to keep family traditions...

10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1...Happy New Year!

Make it count,

Sandra